It is moments like this that make me long for a vacation. The problem is that I was "on vacation" all last week. Not sunning on a hot beach, or visiting far away family. Nope. I took a week off to attend a one week intensive class as part of my board certification process.
My class was on the practice and process of groups. There were ten of us and the teacher. And the truth is, it was a break. Interesting students and relevant material made it a helpful, intense, change of pace.
On the first day we were taught that people are wounded in relationships, and people can best be healed in relationships. We role played numerous group situations and practiced dealing with challenging people. We were reminded that to be healers, we don’t respond in defensiveness but with honesty, firmness and caring. We search for the reason behind angry words, brusk blow offs and sullen remarks and find the pain.
And we stay aware for our need for healing. For me, after a visit with cranky weather man, I will call my nurturing mom who will talk about the cold and snow or anything else for as long I as want to. I will celebrate an unexpected warm day with a fun, fast, four mile walk with Barbara at Carrier Park. I will make plans to bundle up and meet Beth for lunch. She will totally resonate with trying to engage with cranky patients. These healing moments will strengthen me for another round of non-weathery conversation.
Anne Lamott speaks right into my soul every time I read her words.
“I think joy and sweetness and affection are a spiritual path. We're here to know God, to love and serve God, and to be blown away by the beauty and miracle of nature. You just have to get rid of so much baggage to be light enough to dance, to sing, to play. You don't have time to carry grudges; you don't have time to cling to the need to be right. ...most of the time, all you have is the moment, and the imperfect love of the people around you.”